Ok, this info is elsewhere as well, but I want to make sure you all see it….
Aaaand we are done … BIG NEWS EVERYONE! After 6 weeks of working on getting us ready and into my inlaws house I can announce the move is done. We had 30 days to move and I had been slowly working on the house for two weeks because of the hope we would be able to. Main reason we went back to my in-laws (besides being w family) is health stuff, though there are other reasons, of course. So…. We moved. And it was probably the biggest reason I’ve been so stressed and weird, though there are a couple other situations I need to tend to before all is well again.
As much as I enjoy making scarves for people…. I’m running out of yarn… I need to start making money w my scarves if I want to be able to afford to make them (note, if I’ve said you or your kids – or spouse in the case of my sister’s husband – would get a scarf, and I’ve done so before this post gets posted, you are being gifted.)
If you want a scarf message me and we will work out a deal.
NOTE: I WILL POST PICTURES OF SOME SCARVES WHEN I CAN GET GOOD PICTURES OF THEM!!!!
I finished a scarf that has been sitting 3/4s of the way done for quite awhile, and started a new one. I also have my Dad and Johnny’s scarves to finish.
I’ll try to get pictures to edit in at some point today.
I was reading this article on memory and depression and it made me take some time to think about how my memories and memory problems have impacted me.
This has taken a lot of my self esteem, as well as my confidence, and parts of who and what I was/am. I don’t remember ever having a great memory, but it was bad by the time I was in high school, and has just continued to worsen. It’s to the point I have to write things down or post them here on facebook, or constantly reiterate them verbally. It has not helped my OCD, as I start obsessing over the fact I can’t remember things, and I obsess about things that I want to remember. It has not helped my depression, as I feel less and less like a person, and less and less like a functional person. It was not helped me emotionally because of all of the above. And it has not helped me physically because I forget if I’ve done things or not, and I forget if I need to do things (showers go longer than they should at times because I forget, and I try to clean up every day with wipes but there are times where I forget if i’ve done so or not…
That’s just the tip of the iceberg.
There is good as well, but it’s hard to remember or come up with good things.
So the other day I mentioned some stuff about my former relationship with my now ex-husband.
Tonight we happened up on a Gallagher clip. It brought back memories of sitting on the couch with my ex, watching the dvds we had (he has?) and memories of buying the collection. My ex introduced me to Gallagher, and I enjoy watching, sometimes I’m emotional when I watch, and I don’t watch it as much as I used to – it’s a clip here and a clip there, spread out over 10 years, rather than a whole dvd at once.
Another happy memory is the Final Fantasy games. I only played FFX and the start of FFXII when I was with him, but I do still enjoy them, and play when I can. I remember when I first got FFXIII and I got melancholy over the Final Fantasy games in general. I don’t want my ex back in our lives, and neither does Johnny, but at times I almost wish I could call or email him and tell him things, like about Mischief and how he’s doing, and about video games and little things that actually meant and mean something from our time together.
(TW rape is discussed somewhat, no details)
I was raised in a very set Christian home, with abstinence being a big part of that as I grew older.
I have a lot of reasons from my personal life to disagree with abstinence only education, and as a parent I want my kids making informed decisions.
I didn’t know that men could choose not to rape. I didn’t know that they could say “Oh, I don’t want sex” or “Oh, she doesn’t want sex so I’ll either stop, or just masturbate”…. there are other circumstances in my life that led to that way of thinking as well, but the way I was taught that sex ed was bad, etc. didn’t help at all.
I didn’t know sex was pleasurable either. When things felt good when I started venturing into foreplay and sex I was ashamed.
I didn’t know the names of body parts.
The reason I mentioned rape is that when I was 18 I ended up going to the home of a guy I had been dating, and we did some stuff, though there was no intercourse or anything of that sort.
I remember telling the friend who picked me up from his house (I couldn’t drive myself, I was too upset over everything) that he would have raped me. Now, 14 years later, and having been married, etc. I know it’s not likely [that he would have], but at the time I was convinced that we wouldn’t… no COULDN’T have stopped if things went any further, regardless of what I wanted.
Enter my now ex husband. I was coerced into sex at the end of our relationship, until I finally just said “no” and left it at that…. this was at least a few times… honestly I’d say most of our two years we were married. Part of my reason for marrying him was guilt because we’d had sex and I didn’t think I could do anything else. It’s not the only reason, but it did play a role.
I can’t remember what else I wanted to say, so I guess I’ll leave it at that.